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In effect, the children are forced to extend the reach of the controlling man. Children may be bribed, pushed, or just inspired into degrading or spying on their mother or even hurting her physically. To satisfy the adult they perceive as powerful and possibly dangerous, children often laugh at a controlling man’s putdowns of their mother and gang up with him against her. Children learn to accommodate the behaviors of a controlling man as a survival strategy. Turning Children Against Their Mother.The child feels forced to lie to the mother to cover up the abuse and then grows angry with the mother for failing to protect him or her. The more strained the relationship between the mother and child, the greater the likelihood that he will be able to sexually abuse the child (or teenager) undetected. The player controls a young girl named Aya Dervis who lives together with her. An abuser will create rifts between a woman and her child if he plans to sexually abuse that child. Mad Father is a game created by Sen using the World RPG Editor. The adult is always responsible for keeping this relationship non-romantic and non- sexual. A woman’s partner should not flirt with her daughter, and an adult man should not flirt with a teenager. This flirting alienates a woman from her daughter if it makes one or both of them uncomfortable. Some controlling men flirt with their partners’ daughters (and sometimes with their own daughters). Sexualizing the Relationship with a Child or Teen.Or if the children are frightened of his discipline, they may blame the mother for not shielding them from this mistreatment. He might obligate a mother to use harsher discipline than she thinks she should. Controlling men often tell a mother that she is too “soft” with her children. Mothers often give in to their controlling partners, to protect their children. He may throw things, stomp around, drive too fast, or threaten violence including suicide. He may threaten to hurt the children, take the children and disappear, or report the mother to child protective services for imagined offenses. The father or father figure may refuse to spend money on a child’s medical treatment, clothing, or other expenses, or make the child’s mother do specific things if she wishes to support these necessities. An abuser often controls a woman by threatening her children’s wellbeing. Children then cease to follow the mother’s instructions and seem out of control, making her feel less and less capable. Children come to see the abuser as the source of “real” power and their mother as weak. Sometimes controlling men will tell children to respect their mother, while at the same time doing whatever they can to reduce her influence in the home. Or they may do this overtly by calling her names, criticizing her, or physically abusing her in front of the child. They may do this subtly by breaking the mother’s rules. Controlling men undermine women’s parenting by finding ways to become the only authority in the house and by encouraging children to disrespect their mother. Source: Liz Bannish, used with permission